Maladies at a Marriage!!!
I had been to a wedding in Bangalore recently and the devil in me noticed things that make me scribble here.
First of all, a lot of people gather at a wedding to look for matches for themselves or their own relations. Blessing the couple tying the knot there is secondary. The gaze reaches far and wide and envy fills the heart of a parent if either the groom or the bride is slightly well qualified. Unnecessary comments fill the air and generally, people hint at the most trivial details that don't match. "The girl is too short for the boy. The groom doesn't match our girl's complexion. Look at the girl - can't wear a saree properly. The boy is too fat for her. The girl seems to be heavy-headed. The boy seems overaged. He is BALDING!! The girl might be sporting a wig. Why did she have to marry so early, she is just twenty two. The bride has a squint....."
These are just samples. There are many more comments that a human, I feel should not bother to speak.
The bride and groom become the day's scapegoats. They are subject to intense mental torture from the wedding wishes that everyone so happily throws without caring in the least, for how the wishes would embarass either. "Experienced" couples give them suggestions on how to (sometimes how not to) lead a happy life. The parents of both instruct them strictly to hand over a grandson on the tenth month. As if the couple was just waiting for the nuptial knot to deliver a baby after the necessary processing. The girl's friends pass comments into thin air swivelling about their feet, which should amuse them and them alone. The groom's friends hit their shoulders against his and urge the groom to ease off all tension. The icing on the cake comes when a superannuated person comes up the stage to bless the couple. The blessing is for the couple to have sixteen children. Now, is that a blessing????
Teenagers hunt for a pick up too! 'If the two on stage could do it, we could do it too' is their motto. Show-off is never lacking there. The sight of a prospective girl friend could make the boy become the most noble soul on earth. The reverse should hold good too.'
Now, its no ascetic blogging here. I am very much filled with the uncontrollable androgen and testosterone. But having gone into the twenties puts me in an odd situation, particularly when there is no company of the same age around and brings all these thoughts into my mad skull. Everytime someone known to you walks up and says you're next, it brings a nasty smile that could never be explained. To top it all, they say you have blushed and have thus shown that you are ready for marriage. I had a grin too, but the reason was different. I recollected a joke where a guy taught an old man passing 'you're next' comments at marriages a lesson, by using the same phrase when they met at someone else's funeral. Truly, this made me smile.
Despite all the little mischief happening around, a marriage is truly a fantastic occasion to cherish. The bride and the groom have come together to make an eternal commitment to each other to share everything they possess. Everyone is happy. Going beyond the little barriers called handicaps, complexion, status, physique, etc. they have agreed to live with each other. May divine grace carry them through the rest of their life and may they know nothing else but happiness.
First of all, a lot of people gather at a wedding to look for matches for themselves or their own relations. Blessing the couple tying the knot there is secondary. The gaze reaches far and wide and envy fills the heart of a parent if either the groom or the bride is slightly well qualified. Unnecessary comments fill the air and generally, people hint at the most trivial details that don't match. "The girl is too short for the boy. The groom doesn't match our girl's complexion. Look at the girl - can't wear a saree properly. The boy is too fat for her. The girl seems to be heavy-headed. The boy seems overaged. He is BALDING!! The girl might be sporting a wig. Why did she have to marry so early, she is just twenty two. The bride has a squint....."
These are just samples. There are many more comments that a human, I feel should not bother to speak.
The bride and groom become the day's scapegoats. They are subject to intense mental torture from the wedding wishes that everyone so happily throws without caring in the least, for how the wishes would embarass either. "Experienced" couples give them suggestions on how to (sometimes how not to) lead a happy life. The parents of both instruct them strictly to hand over a grandson on the tenth month. As if the couple was just waiting for the nuptial knot to deliver a baby after the necessary processing. The girl's friends pass comments into thin air swivelling about their feet, which should amuse them and them alone. The groom's friends hit their shoulders against his and urge the groom to ease off all tension. The icing on the cake comes when a superannuated person comes up the stage to bless the couple. The blessing is for the couple to have sixteen children. Now, is that a blessing????
Teenagers hunt for a pick up too! 'If the two on stage could do it, we could do it too' is their motto. Show-off is never lacking there. The sight of a prospective girl friend could make the boy become the most noble soul on earth. The reverse should hold good too.'
Now, its no ascetic blogging here. I am very much filled with the uncontrollable androgen and testosterone. But having gone into the twenties puts me in an odd situation, particularly when there is no company of the same age around and brings all these thoughts into my mad skull. Everytime someone known to you walks up and says you're next, it brings a nasty smile that could never be explained. To top it all, they say you have blushed and have thus shown that you are ready for marriage. I had a grin too, but the reason was different. I recollected a joke where a guy taught an old man passing 'you're next' comments at marriages a lesson, by using the same phrase when they met at someone else's funeral. Truly, this made me smile.
Despite all the little mischief happening around, a marriage is truly a fantastic occasion to cherish. The bride and the groom have come together to make an eternal commitment to each other to share everything they possess. Everyone is happy. Going beyond the little barriers called handicaps, complexion, status, physique, etc. they have agreed to live with each other. May divine grace carry them through the rest of their life and may they know nothing else but happiness.
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